Win a hangout with @Adam_Barta and help fight AIDS

Hello everyone out there on the interwebz! I am absolutely thrilled to announce a benefit raffle with the one and only Adam Barta, one of Billboards top 20 artists to help raise money for the LGBT Center NYC and the fight against HIV/AIDS. The winner of this contest will have a Google hangout with Adam himself! Entering is super simple. All you need to do is click this link RIGHT HERE (another window or tab will open)  and donate 30$ or more. Contest closes September 15th at midnight EST, 2015 . Winner will be contacted via email. That’s it, simple right? Then on Sept 25th, 2015 Adam and I will be hanging out with you on G+ for about an hour or so, maybe even longer if Adam is willing. adam2   Know that every cent of your donation is going to my personal fundraising page to help the cause and that NOT ONE PENNY will go into my or Adam’s pocket. Adam is graciously donating his time to help the cause. Every penny will be going to the LGBT Center NYC ( This is a 3 day 275 mile pedal powered bike ride bringing awareness and financial support to fight HIV/AIDS. Starting in Boston and finishing in NYC from Sept 18th-20th, 2015.   Good luck to everyone entering and from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for helping me help the fight against HIV/AIDS.

Contest details: This contest is open to anyone with a Google + account (one can easily be created HERE) The entry to the raffle requires a donation of 30$ or more (multiple donations will mean multiple entries. Entries will be confirmed via donation page behind the scenes.) Entries with no donation record will be disqualified. The contest ends September 15th at 12:00am EST


Cycle for the Cause, the Northeast AIDS ride 2015

Hello out there on the interwebz!

If you haven’t seen on twitter or FB by now, I have signed up for the Cycle for the Cause and committed to take my bike from Boston-NYC over 275 miles, 3 days and 3 states with one goal: to help the fight against AIDS. This is no easy undertaking and I am asking everyone reading this to support me. Both by cheering me on during training and through donating. The minimum donation for riders is $2,750 which means if even 1/4 of my following donates 5$ that goal will be smashed out of the water easily. 5$ is probably what you spend every morning on that fancy coffee and you don’t blink an eye about it. Why not skip one morning and donate that to the cause? Or even more would be awesome.

I have decided to commit myself to help in this fight by participating in this event to help benefit The Center near where I grew up in NYC. If people can live and fight this disease every day, I can raise this money and pedal myself through 3 states. Once again the only way I will be able to do this is with your support. Please donate by clicking the image link just below.


I’m thanking you in advance for your support and really look forward to crossing that finish line in NYC after smashing my goal out of the water.

Ghemit’s 2nd Annual Stream and Century Ride For A Cure


Hello out there on the interwebz. It’s been a while since I’ve written anything and I apologize. I’ve been very busy getting ready for the 2nd annual live stream for a cure. We’re getting closer to this years event and I am very excited to announce officially this years details.

Starting at high noon on October 18th and going till noon of Oct 19th I will be live streaming all kinds of games while trying to raise as much money as I can for a very worthy cause.

Along with the live stream I will also be doing a 100 mile bike ride on Oct 13th to show you how dedicated I am to raise as much money as possible. There will be twitter updates along the way so be sure to follow @GhemitHunts

Last year together we raised $1,500 through the generous donations of people like you. This year my goal is $3,000. Help spread the word and we can reach it! A retweet or mention can help just as much as a monetary donation! The link is and that will send people directly to my official page with the National Breast Cancer Foundation.


About 1 in 8 (12%) women in the US will develop invasive breast cancer during their lifetime and of that 12% 1 in 36 (about 3%) will lose their fight. Although great strides have been made in treatment and research those numbers are still too high. I’m sure most of the people reading this have had at least known someone fighting this fight and if we all work together we can one day rid the world of breast cancer.

If I am able to raise $1,000 or more I will play a scary game of your choosing (the poll will be below) for the torment of myself, but the sick enjoyment of the internet. So if you want to see me cry with fear playing a game, open your wallets.

Unlike other 24 hour live streams I will NOT be giving anything away, I will be using the money for giveaways and directly giving those funds to the National Breast Cancer Foundation.


If you’d like to donate prior to the event you are more than welcome to! Just click the donate button below and it will count towards the event donation tally.

Let’s fight this together and save women from a long hard fight!


****Click the picture below to be taken to my official NBCF fundraiser page and you can quickly and securely donate directly there.****

My official donation page

You can find my live stream page here

Ghemit's Twitch

Please join me on the day of the event and together we can help to fight breast cancer.



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Say Something

Hi everyone,

It’s been a bit since the inspiration has hit me to actually sit down and spill my head into words. Tonight while I was folding laundry and listening to some music and this came on:


This song hits me so hard every time I hear it. It’s hauntingly beautiful, makes me feel love, loss, happiness and sadness. Tears of joy and tears of such pain. I’ve been debating writing something like this for a while. I don’t even know that I’ll hit the publish button, maybe I’ll just leave it as a draft to finally get these thoughts out of my head.


If you follow me on twitter you’ll have seen I’ve been dating again and enjoying myself. As much fun as I’m having I wonder sometimes in the back of my head what Mike would say. Being completely honest I feel slightly guilty about dating again. It’s only been a little over a year and a half since my husband passed. I know people have said you can’t put a timetable on things and only time will heal the wound. There really isn’t a book or even a pamphlet on how to move along after a sudden loss. I absolutely am not looking for a romantic relationship, but in the same breath I won’t close a door in life.


Recently I met someone and we’ve been going on a few dates. Things so far seem like they’re going well, but we’ll see what the universe has in store. It’s fun going out and spending time with him learning more about each other. I am however a bit nervous to invite him over to my place since I do have all the pictures of Mike and I still hanging on the walls. I’ve been completely honest with him and have tried really hard not to bring up the past, but the past makes us who we are today. Sometimes bringing things up is unavoidable. When things do come up he seems honestly interested and approaches it with real care. It shows he’s really a quality guy. If something does end up happening, awesome. If not, then at least I am getting out of the apartment and spending time with a good person having fun.



Time will heal the wounds, but the scars remain.

Spend time making memories.


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The One That Got Away

Hi everyone.

As a writer you can’t escape inspiration and when thoughts fill your mind you have to put them into words. Well tonight as I was taking a shower and washing out the pink dye from my hair after the Pride festival, I heard a song that filled me with memories. Katy Perry’s “The One That Got Away”


As I’m sure all of you know I was married to a man that I love(d) with all of my heart and yet, I felt something missing in my life. I hope whoever is reading this has felt that instant connection; love at first sight if you will. It’s unbelievable and I had that happen to me many years ago when I was 22 and on vacation in NY from the ships.

I’m going to do my best to paint this picture in words so you can fully understand.


I was at one of my favorite bars in Greenwich Village NYC, Pieces. I had just flown back from Hawaii for my 6 week vacation and wanted to go out and have some fun. I was sitting in the corner of the bar next to the wall all alone slowly sipping on my drink, just relaxing and having a good time people watching and chatting with the bartender. Then a very attractive man comes by and introduces himself as JM and we start talking. He instantly caught my attention. His smile, his energy, and his personality drew me in. We sat there for hours talking and laughing and getting to know each other. It was one of the best nights I had at that bar.

Fast forward a year later.

We kept in touch via email and text messages when we could sync times (Hawaii/NY is quite a large time difference). He was so charming and I looked forward to when I could get back to NY to see him again. When I finally moved back home and got a job on Fire Island we started talking more seriously. We went on a few dates which were just absolutely wonderful. I will never forget when we went to a Brazilian restaurant and I had a filet that was brought out to me on a 400 degree slab of rock completely raw. Then after dinner we walked down the river and just sat on a bench talking for hours. It was an amazing night. (This was 2 years after we met)

I saw him a few more times on Fire Island and we had cute dates like that again. Him always being charming, sweet and caring and me swooning at almost his every word.

Fast forward to today.

I heard that Katy Perry song and like every time I hear that song my mind goes back to the times we spent together. About 2 years ago he randomly texted me out of the blue and obviously living in DC and being married, I put him in the friend zone… I always thought fondly of him though.

The one that got away. That is how I think of JM and although I am finally happy being single, I wouldn’t say no if he asked me out again, though I think he’s in a relationship.

Why am I telling you all this? Like I say in a lot of posts here, life is short and you should live it. Part of me regrets not trying to pursue things with him, but another part of me knows that people, places and things come into your life for a reason. When that reason is fulfilled, that catalyst leaves you a better stronger person.

I will be forwarding this post to him and I hope he reads it. JM you will always have a special place in my heart. You are an amazing man and I have been blessed having you in my life.

For everyone else reading this. Please remember, life is short, live without regrets and follow your happy.

Until next time. I love you all. LIVE!


Hi everyone on the interwebz!


I wanted to give a bit of an update on what’s going on with me and my #missionhappy. To say it’s been a whirlwind success for me is putting it lightly. In the months since I started living for happy a lot has happened, and a majority of it has been great!

Let’s start with my general overall mood. In one word to describe how I wake up every morning now: fantastic! I have been noticing more and more I wake up on the great side of the bed and my days start great and stay that way. It’s wonderful waking up with a smile on my face ready to conquer the day.

On a physical note I have had a horrible knot in my back for years now and it hurts! Since I started on this mission I have seen everyday that my pain level has gone from a 6/7 to a 1/2. I’m relaxing my body more and it feels great!

On a not so happy note, my boyfriend broke up with me suddenly after a few months of dating. I won’t go into too much detail but I had a feeling it would be ending soon anyway. In line with my mission I found the silver lining and realized I don’t need a partner to be happy, I need to live for me. So I did just that. I went and finally got a piercing I have been wanting for nearly 11 years; my septum.


I was so nervous/excited to get this done. I had done research on it, asked people with it and generally gathered as much information as I could about it over the years. I was prepared mentally; or so I thought.

As I left work and headed to a very highly rated tattoo parlor I was a mix of all sorts of emotion. Excited, nervous, happy and sad. I was running the full gambit of emotion. I walked in and paid then sat down and waited for the piercer (who had run out for printer ink). As I sat there I was tweeting about it and the support from twitter was astonishing, seriously I love my followers so much. Then it was time. The piercer Michelle walked me back into a room and got everything ready while talking me through the entire process. She made me feel so safe and comfortable I knew I could do this. I learned that there is a “sweet spot” between the cartilage and the skin which is where the piercing goes. With all my research I had no idea about this and I was so relieved. I know cartilage piercings generally hurt more and take longer to heal.

After she marked the spot and had me take a look in the mirror it was time. The moment I have been thinking about for over a decade. After a deep breath in she said “ok exhale” and BAM a needle was through my nose! The endorphins were racing and outside of a quick pain (maybe a second) I had the ring in. All in all it took maybe 5 mins start to finish from when I walked in the room.


I was thrilled and excited and surprised that I actually did this. I am so happy with how it looks and I have even heard from people that normally don’t like facial piercings say it works on me and I pull it off well. As nice as that is to hear I did this for me, not anyone else. I decided to do something that I wanted to do. The best thing about it is I can flip it up and it’s hidden inside my nose for work. The healing so far 2 weeks later has not been bad at all aside from some soreness, but that’s always expected with a piercing. It’s healing beautifully and I am so happy I did this for myself.


I am so happy I finally said F the world I want to do something for me. I’ve never been happier doing something for myself.

Go and do something for YOU! We have one life here, enjoy it.


Until next time my friends. I love you. LIVE!


Hello everyone!


I have been so behind on watching videos from my YouTube friends and tonight I finally had some time to watch their videos. I came across one from a friend of mine Fred. At first I watched it and thought it was great and nicely worded and deep. I didn’t really listen to his words. I then watched it about maybe 20 times at the time I’m writing this and I really listened to his words. Specifically I thought about my late husband and all the memories we had together through the years we were together.

It hit me so hard and like a freight train. As he says “One day the people I love will only live in memories”. This also made me think back to elementary school, to my best friend Daniel who I haven’t spoken to in over 20 years. I remember the times we spent together and the fun we had.


I also think back to the trip my late husband and I took to Paris. It was the trip of my dreams.  I somehow managed to bring him to the top of the Eiffel Tower (he HATED heights). That’s where he proposed to me though. This memory to this day hits every string of my heart. I cannot look at a picture of the tower without thinking of him. We had many years and many many memories together. Seeing Fred’s video I guess kick started my brain and I was brought back. I started remembering memories from ALL throughout the years we were together. Happy and sad, good and bad.

I am so grateful we shared part of our lives together. Also thank you Fred for bringing these memories back to me(though not specifically for me).


It’s a short post here, but honestly. Watch this video and REALLY listen to his words. I watched it at least 5 times till I really truly HEARD what he said. Listening and hearing are very different things.

Thank you Fred. Thank you for the flood of memories. I am smiling even though I am crying.



I love you all! Make memories and spread love. LIVE!